Chasing Game

 "Don't chase anything but shots and dreams."

This is a quote that I hear all too much. Mostly from sad girls that have just broken up with their boyfriends and feel down about themselves.

But it's something that I sort of believe in, too. I've spent a lot of my life chasing and waiting for boys who ended up not caring about me at all. I was extremely naive, and looking back, all the signs were there. But luckily I haven't turned into some sort of man-hater who's pretending to be a lesbian because she hasn't had luck with the male species in a while.

I've just gotten to the point where I wait for them to show interest rather than jump the gun and blow up their phone. Which kills me! Because it's compeltely opposite from how I naturally am. When I'm waitting for a guy to text me or talk to me, in my head I'm dying and holding myself back from making the first move. But then again, I think most girls feel this way. That when they text someone, and they don't respond right away, or ask you out right away, that the other person is simply not interested.

But how far are we as women supposed to go in terms of the first couple interactions with guys? Should he make the first move and ask the girl out? That's the traditional opinion coming out in me. But what if he's more shy than her, and won't? Should she just initiate the relationship and give him her phone number? That's the current situation I'm in. I've seen the movie "He's Just Not That Into You" a few dozen times, but that's Hollywood's take on real life, right? Am I supposed to believe that all guys are just naturally inclined to become social beings when they see a girl they like, even if they are normally not?

So do I sit and wait? Do I get up and chase him? Do I slip him my number and then run away like a third grader in hopes that I won't have to see him again because I'm too embarrassed?

So many questions that the world does not seem to want to answer. Thanks, world, you secretive mongrel.